Adult ADHD

Understanding ADHD:

Life can be a balancing act for any adult. If you find yourself constantly late, disorganized, forgetful, and overwhelmed by your responsibilities, you may have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). 

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Common traits for adults with ADHD are difficulties concentrating, especially when tasks do not interest you. People become easily distracted and may speak before thinking ( have no filter). Adults with ADHD are known to have a 'hot temper' or may struggle to regulate their emotions. Many experience extreme emotions that could affect their relationships.

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Adult ADHD symptoms may include:

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• Impulsiveness

• Disorganisation and problems prioritising

• Poor time management skills

• Problems focusing on a task

• Trouble multitasking

• Excessive activity or restlessness

• Poor planning

• Low frustration tolerance

• Frequent mood swings

• Problems following through and completing tasks

• Hot temper

• Trouble coping with stress

• Hyperfocus on an activity or hobby

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How does ADHD or ADD affect relationships?

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The distractibility, disorganisation, and impulsivity associated with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) can create challenges in various aspects of adult life. These symptoms can be especially detrimental in close relationships, particularly if the individual has never received a proper diagnosis or treatment for ADHD.

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Money and Impulsivity Issues

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Impulsivity is one of the major symptoms of ADHD, so it is not uncommon for those with ADHD to buy first and think later.

Impulse buying is an unrelenting temptation – because it’s so easy and so instantly rewarding. Buying things on the spur of the moment triggers a rush of adrenaline and dopamine associated with positive emotions. It feels good, but not for long; stress soon follows when we realise the negative consequences of our purchases, namely money problems.

 

Emotional Struggles with ADHD

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It is common for adults with ADHD to develop emotional issues due to years of struggling to succeed at home, in school, and at work. Anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem are common issues in adulthood and often need to be addressed. Among the therapies used to treat these issues are cognitive-behavioural therapy, ACT therapy, and MICBT.

 

If you suspect you have or have been diagnosed with ADHD

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Feeling constantly nagged, micromanaged, and criticised may be a common experience. You may find yourself avoiding your partner complying to create a calmer environment. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder can send the most important relationships off the rails. Distraction, procrastination, and other ADHD symptoms can stir anger, frustration, and hurt feelings for both the person with ADHD and the partner. Your marriage or relationship can thrive with proper treatment and tactics to prevent misunderstandings.